Bix, I am sorry to read that you have gotten taken. The seller lists location as in Mt. Gretna PA and has a really great hook "her husband was killed and here's his racing suit". Really pulls the heartstrings huh?
Probably not a female running the scam, probably a guy. If you talked to a woman its probably his girl friend or helper.
Reporting it to the FBI is good, as its fraud and because it crossed state lines a federal offense. If you used a US Post Office money order, probably constituted as mail fraud also.
But we know the FBI has a zillion of these reports and Pinklady is counting on them not coming after her/him.
The real issue if you want to go get her is where she is really located and what her real phone number is etc. As you know even rats leave a trail.
Once you know where she is you can sue her in your state and have her served in hers. That should get her attention.
If you want to really go get her, pm me and I will give you some place to start that should allow you to reverse track the cell number (gotta be a cell) and pull some data from the public databases. Its not gauranteed but it has worked for me on a few occasions when I wanted to let the bad guys know they were in for a fight.
Pinklady is there and she has left a trail, you just need to decide how much you want to chase her and whether you want to invest any additional monies.
But look at it this way, make chasing Pinklady a hobby, then you can justify the investment and get total enjoyment from it.
Remember Scammers are cowards hiding behind a CRT.
As always just my humble opinion.
later.